I would like to begin this post by thanking all of you who were so supportive and so kind when I took my recent blog break. Some of your comments brought tears to my eyes, and all of your comments made me feel so much love and encouragement. When I took that break, I wasn’t sure if I would return to blogging.
In analyzing why I considered abandoning my blog, I realized that, for me to enjoy my blog, I have to take back ownership of it. I understand that I am the one who put the pressures on myself, and I have to admit to myself (and to you) that if I continue blogging the way I was blogging, I will again put those pressures on myself. For me, right now, if I want to continue blogging, I have to change the way I've been doing it.
Being a slow learner, it took me a long time to realize that weekly blog events are just not for me. I will not be hosting a weekly meme/event/party, and I don’t plan to link to other weekly events. I know it is not rational to feel pressured into joining other blogger’s events, but I am not always a rational person (that probably does not come as a surprise to most of you!) If a blogger linked to my Favorite Things event, and they hosted an event, I felt that I really wanted to support their weekly event by posting something appropriate to allow me to link to their event. If I linked to an event one week, I felt that I needed to try to link to that event every week. I struggled to come up with posts that would be appropriate for all of those different events, and I began to regard blogging as a chore instead of something fun. I also felt guilty, because I know that blog etiquette requires that, when I link to a meme, I should attempt to visit all (or at least some) of the other links, and I was never able to find the time to do much of that.
I so appreciate all of you who linked to “A Few Of My Favorite Things”, and I want to thank all of you who so graciously host weekly memes. I do feel like I am cutting myself off from a lot of you wonderful bloggers and a lot of blog visitors. Although that is not something I want to do, it is something I know I have to do. If I want to blog, I don’t feel I have a choice.
Having said all of that, I am reminded of my Mother’s often-repeated advice ~ “Nevah say nevah, because if you do, you’ll eventually have to eat the word “nevah””. In spite of her advice, I have, over the years, had to eat that word several times. So, I’m not going to say that I will “nevah” again link to or host a weekly event. I’m just going to say that I don’t think I’m going to take on that responsibility again.
I do plan to host my yearly Valentine party, and if I can come up with something appropriate, I will link to other blogger’s special events. I will also continue to occasionally post favorite pictures that I
steal borrow from other blogs. They just won’t be part of a weekly event. For me, blogging is not fun if I am putting pressure on myself to join all of the memes. I know, I know, I don’t HAVE to post about anything. I’m tellin’ ya, I need psychiatric help.
I know that this decision will lead to my having fewer visitors and fewer comments, and I do love the connections I feel when I read your comments. Howevah, when I began blogging, I didn’t expect any comments, so, no matter how few, I am still thrilled when I get any comments on a post. I’m going to try to go back to the roots of my blog, and just blog when I want to blog and blog about what is going on in my life at that moment. I say that with full awareness that not much goes on in my life that would be of interest to anyone else, and with the awareness that my blog will probably not gain new visitors and will lose some visitors. My posts may be more sporadic than they used to be, because I will only be posting when I want to post. I know that, at least for now, this is the only way I can continue to blog, and I do want to continue. I hope you’ll understand and continue to stop by for visits.
All chat (especially when it’s me doing the chatting) and no pictures makes a post dull, so I’m sharing some of the fabulous inspiration I’ve recently seen in Blogville. (Click on picture to be transported to these inspiring blogs.)
Alycia, Amanda and Amy, please feel free to take the “One of Laurie’s Favorites” button to post on your blog. Also, please feel free to let me know if you do not want your photo on my blog, and I will quickly remove it. Thanks to all of you for all of the inspiration you share. (I don’t know how I ended up being inspired by three bloggers, whose names begin with “A”! I do know that I will NOT be going through the alphabet to find inspiration photos ~ that would be another responsibility I definitely couldn’t handle!)
Thank you to my visitors. I hope that you will visit me in the future, in spite of my decision to give up weekly events. laurie